You See I Have These "Internet Friends"….

   When I started blogging about a year and a half ago, I didn’t really understand that blogging has a community aspect to it. I kind of just thought I would post randomly and a few family and friends I let in on my little bloggy secret would read. Then I discovered if you comment on other people’s blogs, they may visit your blog and comment. Suddenly I had official “readers”. Now I feel like my relationships fall under 5 general categories.

  • Friends Who Blog:Hence my Blogroll over there on the left. When I started blogging I began to tell a few of my real life friends about it and some of them got blogs. We would read each other’s blogs and cheer each other on when we reached readership milestones. We tagged each other for memes, gave each other awards and generally talked about our blogs enough to annoy the crap out of all our other friends who thought we were crazy. Some of them have kept up their blogs, others blog fairly randomly, but it is still fun to think that we started that together.
  • Friends Who Stalk My Blog: I am always shocked when I find out people I hang out with regularly read my blog. Cause half the time I have NO idea until I am midway through a story one day and they stop me and say, “Yeah I know, I read your blog.” Often I am confused cause I didn’t even know they knew I had a blog. And then suddenly I realize they probably know WAY too much about me and I get a little scared. I am kidding with the stalker thing. I love it that people enjoy reading what I write, but it is OK to comment every once and a while to let me know you are there. I know it is scary, but if you just rip the band aid off you will find it is not so painful.
  • Friends Because Of Blogging: So again, back to when I started blogging. Suddenly I discovered some people I didn’t know that well, but knew them kind of, well they had blogs too. And then I started knowing all sorts of things about them cause I read their blogs. And then I would see them and feel like I knew them, but I didn’t really. But then suddenly we are Facebook friends and then becoming real friends. And yippee, internet friends, but not the creepy, 64 year old man posing as a cool girl kind.

  Recently, I met a mom at MOPS who is also a blogger and found out from someone at her table that I was a blogger. Instant connection. Now we are reading each other’s blogs, following each other on Twitter and constantly behind each other in line picking up our kids from Sunday School. You can find her over at Short Stop. See, outside world thinks “Twitter, blogging? What freaks!” Probably, but we are freaks that get each other.

I also recently met another online friend on Twitter and found out we both lived in the same town. And she was church shopping. So I told her about my fantastic church. She checked it out and started going. Now she goes to a different service so we still haven’t met, but we hope to meet for coffee soon. The funny thing is that I told our pastor to look out for her at service cause she was new. I began to describe the few things I knew about her and he said, “I think I met her family. What is her name?” I responded sheepishly, “Uh Bead Girl.” Yes, it is sad but true that I only knew her Twitter name. I am pretty sure I am not going to be asked to fill any leadership positions in the church anytime soon.

Of course you all know about my bloggy BFF Jenny. She rocks!! And what started with a few blog comments has now progressed to a blogging, Facebooking, Twittering friendship. Last week we met and this week we moved our relationship to the next level. We are phone friends. It was a really big step, but we felt like we were ready. Of course, we couldn’t talk long since she apparently goes to bed at 7:30 at night and can’t talk past 7 pm.

  • Bloggy Friends: These of course are the people whose blogs I read regularly, sometimes comment on and secretly believe we would be friends if only they realized how cool I am. Sometimes they comment back on my blog or write me an email and I get really excited, save it to a special email folder and squeal to my hubby. I so wish I was kidding.
  • The Rest Of The World:You know the people who look at me like I have an extra head when I mention blogging, Twitter, facebook or the internet friendship world in general. God bless them, they have no idea the wonderful friendships they are missing out on :)

Thanks for being my unweird (well mostly), uncreepy (I sincerely hope), super fabulous internet friends. This would be a fabulous day to share the love with a comment. Subtle aren’t I?


  1. oh so true!

    i have made instant connections with others as I find out that they are bloggers. I have also had that slightly uneasy feeling when i realize that these real life people that i talk to on occasion are regular blog stalkers of mine. :-)

    Natalies last blog post..Matching…

  2. Too funny! And since I started my blog almost 3 years ago (has it really been that long?) as a way to keep the extended family in contact with us…. well, that’s still the main focus. But yes, I have just in the past few months discovered a lot of the mom’s at my bible study either have blogs or read mine. It’s really random to have a mom that I haven’t talked to in a couple weeks come up to me and comment about something I wrote about. I’m like “how did you know that” and then I think, oh yeah, duh, I wrote about it on my blog!
    And yeah, most of them don’t comment unless they have their own blogs. I so get that part! ;)

  3. I respond well to subtlety! :)

    I laughed out loud when you wrote that you’re always a little scared and confused when someone you know mentions they read your blog. I totally feel the same way! And then I think “What if they tell someone!”

    I heart your blog. And you are one of the people I think I could be friends with, if you knew how cool I was!

    Andrea@Under Grace & Over Coffees last blog post..A Thankful Heart

  4. Guilty as charged! I’m a stalker – but now I’ve graduated to fan!! I love your site-it’s great to be able to laugh about being a wife and mother. Even though I work outside of the home, I can still relate. Now that I’ve broken the “comment” seal, I’ll be back!

  5. Stalker is a much better word that lurker don’t you think? It implies a bit of gumption:) Anyway, add me to fan status, too. You have a great blog and I really enjoy reading it.

    Tree Climbing Moms last blog post..The Stink Over Tink

  6. I know sometimes I just say I have a friend that lives in such and such. Because when I say bloggy friend, people think I’m weird. It is wonderful, though, isn’t it?

    Nancys last blog post..Playing Tag with Memory Loss

  7. Melinda says:

    Look, I am commenting again! Can I be moved out of the “friends who stalk my blog” category?

  8. This was the biggest surprise to me about blogging. I never imagined I would feel like I was such close friends with women I had never met. And I would have looked at someone like they were completely crazy if they had told me that.

    Debbies last blog post..My letter to the "powers" that be

  9. I agree so much. I have made friends online. My husband thinks they are all old perverted men though. Even though I have spoken to a few on the phone. Great step my the way!! Glad you made the leap! Anyone in NW FL???

  10. Oh yeah, forgot to say that yes, the stalking is indeed unnerving!!!

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  11. Blogging really makes the world feel a little smaller, doesn’t it?

    Marias last blog post..Nursery Rhymes Princess Pigtails Style

  12. It’s the weirdest thing ever when someone you vaguely know reads my blog. Then it’s a little awkward that they know so much about me.

    chanelirelis last blog post..She’s quick

  13. Oh, I can SOOOOO relate to this. Except, um, I have a hard time explaining blogging to friends that don’t blog, or read blogs, or get it in anyway.

    My hubby’s boss’s wife reads my blog. I mentioned it once, and she wanted to see it. But now I find out she reads it almost daily. That’s a little unnerving. I just try not to think about it ;)

    Barbaras last blog post..Monday Musings {25}

  14. Oh, so subtle and oh so funny. Love your blog.

    For the longest time, my most faithful reader was my FIL. Neither of my MILs read and my mom and husband were just an occ. readers. At first it was a little unnerving to hear my FIL refer to something I had written. Like an extra conscience or something. But good, too.

    My non-blogging friends are completely mystified by the whole thing. And give me strange looks when I talk about someone else’s post. Ah well. They just don’t get it until they GET one!

    jubilees last blog post..Special FIRST Edition – Goodbye Hollywood Nobody

  15. Listen it was just ONE NIGHT that I went to bed that early…I was desperate! Usually I am up to the ungodly hour of 10:30. :)
    Since your commenters are sharing the love, can they please come over and give me some? I got NUTTIN’ today (except you, Old Faithful.)

    Jenny from Mommin’ It Up!s last blog post..Vandalizing Innocence

  16. this is a great post and I hope I am counted in your “bloggy friends” category!

    Erin Gs last blog post..Nathan the (Non)cuddler

  17. I love reading your blog! I totally know how you feel with the “stalker” friends. Every time I would go to my husbands softball games this summer the other wives would ask my son about specific things he had done recently. For some reason, every week I was surprised until I realized she had just been reading the blog!

    Amys last blog post..Aidan and Ella’s Announcement

  18. OMG, totally cracking up at the “bead girl” thingy!

    As for the bloggy friends – HA – so glad to know I’m not the only one!

    BTW, we are not facebook friends. We must fix that.

    Sarah @ Short Stops last blog post..And, Then I Got All Crafty

  19. Hee hee hee! I LOVE it! To explain to a non-blogger person about blogging is just not worth the time. They just don’t get it :)

    Happily stalking…

    Amanda- VintageDutchGirls last blog post..An Apple (or Eight) A Day…

  20. Comment love! Yeee!

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  21. hahaha! i know exactly what you mean.

    but kind of wish i didn’t.

    katherine from senor elefantes last blog post..time freeze

  22. Is there a catagory for blogger’s moms? Or at least blogger relatives??? I know you have a few out there!! I love being the mom of this blogger cause otherwise I would be one of those who “didn’t get it”. Now I’m hip and happenin’!!!

  23. I never expected people that I kind of knew in real life to become real life friends, all because of blogging!

    And it definitely weirds me out a bit when I discover someone’s been reading my blog that I had NO IDEA was.

    HeresTheDiehls last blog post..Sunday’s Randomness

  24. Rachel says:

    Sharing the bloggy love – I ADORE your blog. You make me laugh every single day. Please keep it up!

    Rachels last blog post..SOAP: Hebrews 1:2B – The Heir

  25. LOL…I guess I’m one of those people who stalk your blog (except I don’t know you in real life) and rarely comment (sorry…it’s a fault of mine…but you are in my favorites on my blogroll if that makes you feel better). Anywho, I decided to comment today b/c I loved your post…I have the same five categories except I don’t twitter or facebook (at least I do know what they are though…LOL).

    faiths last blog post..Rainy Days Don’t Last Forever

  26. I totally understand! It is very difficult to explain blogging to friends who don’t blog isn’t it?! Love your blog!

    Julies last blog post..The Tooth Fairy

  27. I love your descriptions! Someone at church was talking about something they heard about on TV called “twittering” I’m don’t tweet, but was proud to know exactly what she was talking about, and astounded that I was the only one in class who knew what it was. Note to self: must get fellow church goers blogging…:-)

    Mama Koalas last blog post..Tag, I’m it!

  28. I know, someone mentioned something to me at church that I blogged about … surreal, eh?

  29. I just started blogging about 7 months ago and I’m in the same mindset you were. I’m pretty sure that only friends and family that know me are reading, since it’s mostly pictures of my son, but I’ve enjoyed slowly discovering the world of blogging. I’m adding your fabulous space to my blogroll. :)


  30. I don’t have a whole posse of friends, and of those friends I do have, I’m the only blogger among them. Like you, I’ve made some friends in the blogging world and try to participate in discussions on their sites as much as I can.

    And I do have my stalkers. My stalkers happen to be co-workers who very recently decided to check out my site. I’m very much not cool with because I know they’re not reading because they’re curious. They’re just looking for dirt.

    Heathers last blog post..Stick a fork in me

  31. This comment is late, I know… I’ve been out of town…I do enjoy reading your blog even though I don’t always comment too often.
    I have some friends I’ve met through blogging, too, and my husband thinks I’m crazy! I’ve never met any of them in person, though, because I’m overseas (and some of them are too!)

  32. i think you need to repost this…to show that those weird internet friends can actually become REAL friends :)

    i LOVE this post btw

    love, “thebeadgirl” :)
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