September has been a brutal month in our house. Kids going back to school, fall schedules starting, hubby having a bunch of unusual business travel and I honestly don’t even know what else. What I do know is that I feel like in the entire month of September I have had approximately three meaningful, intentional conversations with my spouse.
It is amazing how short of a time it takes to begin to live as roommates instead of husband and wife. Some people think the decline of a marriage happens with screaming and fighting and drama. But I think the decline of a marriage happens with silence and apathy and neglect.
There are a million things clamoring for my attention. School committees, church commitments, nights out with the girls, the constant needs of my kiddos and my husband. None of those are bad things. None of those seem like the kinds of things that are out to destroy my marriage. But they could if I let them.
I like to be busy. So does my husband. We kind of thrive on it. We also thrive on having a quality marriage. And it is very difficult to do both.
There are a lot of bad things I need to say no to in order to protect my marriage. But there are also a lot of GOOD things I need to say no to in order to protect my marriage. Sometimes those “things” even are my children when they cry and cling and beg us not to leave when the hubby and I go out on a date or away for a weekend. When I say my marriage comes first, I want to mean it.
If you believe your marriage is sacred and one that you want to last for a lifetime, do your priorities reflect that?