The Unwelcome Welcome (BlogHer '09 Week)

hug1  So I am going to BlogHer this week. Leaving Wednesday morning to be exact. Which means I have two more days to fret about life changing decisions like how many shoes to bring and if I really need to get my eyebrows waxed before going. Actually, I am not all that stressed, but all the talk on Twitter about how stressed everyone is seems to be wearing off on me. Maybe since it is my first time, I just don’t realize I am supposed to be freaking out.

In all truth, I am just excited. Excited to meet new people and see the friends I made at Blissdom. Excited to be back in my favorite city Chicago. Excited to get a tiny break from the little people in my house. Yes, I said it. I know that I will miss them like crazy by the end and so a little distance is not a bad thing. Heck, just excited to have someone else making my bed, my breakfast and my lunch.

But there is one thing I am not looking forward to so much. I am not a toucher by nature. By any stretch of the imagination. Even by my closest family, I don’t really like to be touched. Well, I love to be snuggled by the wee ones….to a point. But much to my hubby’s dismay, I am not much of a hand holder, arm around kinda gal. And I once had a friend tell me that hugging is very uncomfortable because it is obvious that I am just waiting for it to be over.

Have you noticed that in the past few years hugging has become the acceptable form of greeting. Shaking hands I can deal with, it is quick and painless. Even a high five would be nice. But this hugging thing, I am just not on board with it. And I feel like it is no longer something between close friends, but like a generally accepted form of greeting. What is a non-hugger to do?

Let’s not forget that we have to throw in the whole pregnant thing which automatically lends itself to inappropriate belly touching. I have explicitly given a few bloggy friends permission to pat away, but I fear that out of 1500 people there may be a few of those inappropriate belly touchers lurking around. I get it, I really do. Even a non-toucher like me has been overcome with the compulsion to rub a belly or two in my day, but usually by someone I at least know by first and last name.

So maybe we can just have a general understanding that if you see me, you just throw me a high five. Or a thumbs up. Or even a hip bump. At most a side hug. I really am a lovely, outgoing, friendly person, I swear. As long as you don’t come anywhere near my belly ;)


  1. side hugs are okay. Belly pats – UGH. Unless you ask me, and I know you, then it’s okay. Handshakes would be okay if ppl washed their hands more often. (I mean, think of all the places those hands have been! ewwwww)
    At church (small baptist church) I usually am holding a tissue b/c I have a runny nose (allergic to ladies perfumes and hairsprays, lol) so I just wave the tissue when ppl try to touch me and most of them back off :D
    Sometimes they don’t and so then I’m like ‘sorry, can’t shake hands, I just had to wipe my nose’.

    Anyways, I feel your pain.

    Have fun at BlogHer!!
    .-= Lana´s last blog ..Appointment change =-.

  2. If it makes any of your friends feel better, I know that you’re not even that crazy about having your Mom hug you sometimes. I am one of those “huggers”!! I probably scarred you for life!! But I love you so much.

  3. I am not much of a hugger either, but my BFF has totally converted me. She is the most huggy person I have ever met. She hugs everyone, and for a long time. When she and her mom hug it is like over a minute. I am not like that now by any means, but I really enjoy a good hug now, even by people I don’t know well.

    Have so much fun at BlogHer! I will get to one of these blogging conferences someday!
    .-= Nicole @frugalisfab´s last blog ..Rite Aid 7/19-7/26 =-.

  4. Agreed! I’ll be happy to high five ya, or give you a nice hand shake at BlogHer. And I promise, no belly rubs! After 7 kiddos I am over it!
    See you soon!
    .-= The Happy Housewife´s last blog ..Itch to Pitch ~ Overwhelmed =-.

  5. I’m with you, and I like to hug! I need contact, but ONLY from friends!!! When I was pregnant with my first, I couldn’t believe how many random people felt it appropriate to touch my oh so large belly! Now that I’m pregnant with my second, I’m much more guarded and when a random person wants to chat about the bump, I move my purse, cross my arms a little, or hold a sweater in front just to give every possible clue to the other person that you are NOT to touch me!!! =) Its just plain weird.

  6. I am a hugger, but I promise not to do anything icky – just a high five it will be, lol!
    .-= Laurie/MobileMommy´s last blog ..Help Me Pick New Eyeglasses =-.

  7. I will totally hip bump you.
    .-= To Think Is To Create´s last blog ..Hope Lives =-.

  8. I am SO glad you said this. I think I need to do a bloggity PSA myself. Or buy this t-shirt I found on cafe press that says “unless you put this baby in here, do not touch the belly” or something along those lines.

    but I’m also tempted by the one that says “pregnant is the new skinny.”

    and I can’t afford both.

    I digress. Have fun at blogher and don’t feel bad avoiding hugs!
    .-= Erin G´s last blog ..Washington Part 3: The One Where Nathan Looks at Airplanes Instead of the Camera =-.

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