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The Challenge Week 19- Laughter, The Best Aphrodisiac

1-cor-challenge We went all the way back to week one this week and did some massive cleaning of the bedroom as the “haven” part seemed to get replaced with “everyone in the house dump your crap here.” But all of that cleaning complete with moving a bed I probably shouldn’t have has landed me on the DL. Being preggo makes The Challenge ten times more challenging. But it does provoke a LOT of laughter so that works for this week’s challenge…

If you sex life is stale it could be because you have forgotten how fun sex really is. My hubby recently told me, “Women take sex way too seriously, it is supposed to be fun.” Now let me assure you when he said that he was not referring to us. I sometimes have the opposite problem and am giggling so much I forget it’s also supposed to be romantic. It’s about balance ladies.

Mistake #1 is that we ladies approach sex as some chore on our checklist that we just need to check off. Not so appealing for the hubbies. Contrary to the popular myth that men are just into sex to please themselves, most husbands really care that you are enjoying yourself. It is hard to feel that way when you are laying there with a look in your eye that says, “Hurry up and get this over with so that I can go back to watching Grey’s Anatomy.”

Mistake #2 is that we ladies have watched too many movies and expect some magical romantic moment complete with billowing curtains and Berlin singing “Take My Breath Away” in the background. That kind of moment may happen once in a while (well without Berlin), but chances are that is not the norm. And I think the expectation that sex should be like this puts a lot of pressure on our husbands. It is more likely that a moment that starts out very romantic ends up with a misplaced elbow or someone rolling off the bed. I have one friend (who will remain nameless) whose box spring gave out and their bed crashed to the floor, but persevered and laughed their way through it and are still laughing about it to this day.

So don’t be afraid to laugh together. There is something about laughter that just makes an intimate moment all that more intimate. Laugh when you try something new that goes horribly wrong. Or laugh when you do the same thing that is tried and true, but it goes horribly wrong. Find a way to laugh about the fact you just possibly had the worst sex of your marriage (not at your hubby ladies, WITH each other). Or laugh cause you just had the best sex of your marriage and you are so happy you married each other. The point is, lighten up and have some fun.

If I haven’t convinced you, maybe this article can. It states that the secrets to keeping a healthy, nimble mind is sex, laughter and dark chocolate. It’s a scientific fact ladies, and you just can’t argue with science. Man, I love it when science tells me to eat more chocolate…

Comments

  1. I think my husband would like me to stop laughing so much… sometimes it’s just so darn funny!

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  2. The best story we have is right in the middle of having sex, the mouse trap snapped. We both ran to the kitchen nudey and saw the first (of ten) mice caught in the metal jaws of the trap we had set earlier that day.

    We laughed so hard but couldn’t quite seem to get back in the mood. Go figure? :)

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  3. we laugh a lot – most of the time before or after, but sometimes during.

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  4. I am with you on the chocolate… :) And the rest. My hubby and I have been really clicking the last week or so. This weekend was great, and I felt like we were back to normal(we aren’t having problems on a large scale… just been busy). We were back to laughing, and hugging and hand holding(I know.. I know), and it was great!

    Taiyas last blog post..Not Me Monday.

  5. Agree, Agree, Agree!

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  6. Jen@BigBinder says:

    Yes! No way am I going to share any stories in a comment on a blog post but I completely agree that being able to laugh, especially at something new that has gone wrong, is very intimate. I’ll just say that we laugh a lot in our house :)

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  7. Yes, Laughter is what made me love my husband in the first place :) That and the fact that he’s so darn good lookin’!

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  8. Imagine this…you are in the throes of passionate love and you look over just above your head is a HUGE spider! You scream, push hubby off and wait for him to kill it.

    Oh yes, true story. We laughed soooo hard after he had killed it. And surprisingly enough, it didn’t kill the mood…LOL!

    And I agree with other commenters..sex is just plain funny at times!

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  9. Blend says:

    Sometimes we laugh a lot…without caring

    Blends last blog post..Preparing Yourself Mentally

  10. Speaking of beds breaking… we broke ours after only having it for a week! Quite literally we both went running for the bedroom (I’ll let you figure out why) and took a running leap for the bed. We looked at each other in mid-air with the “oh crap” look, but by then we were committed. After a resounding crack, we just had to laugh! And yes, since it was new we got it replaced and we’ve been much more careful since then!

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  12. Our first bed was a hand-me-down from my parents. (yes, we were that poor!) When we entered our romantic boudoirs for the first time and got on the bed, the mattress rolled up like a taco on each side with springs poking us through the cloth covering. The laughter hasn’t stopped since.

  13. I haven’t read these in forever! I’m so behind, but I do love this one. I find the laughing makes me way more in the mood. Hubby and I have been trying to make baby #2 and all the stress of it made sex so not fun – so we decided to act like we aren’t trying to make a baby and are just having fun with it like we used to. I love it!

    I also love this blog, becuase I can talk about sex sand its okay. Thanks!
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  14. Thanks for these posts – we as ladies definitely need some encouragement.
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