Oh yeah, its back. Cause I don’t know about you, but don’t you just need a reminder, a refresher, a support group of women who are jonesing for some marital hokey pokey? I would love to tell you I have come up with a whole bunch of new challenges to put a spark back into your marriage, but I am not that good. So I am starting at the beginning and we are doing them again. I will tweek them a bit, and if you have any fun ideas for a challenge, I am more than happy to add them in. If your new, perfect, join on in. If you’ve done these the first time around, I am betting you could still stand a second go at it. And I thought I would be nice and start your New Year’s Resolution list for you. I’m such a giver.
Are you in? Your husband wants you to be…
There has been a ton of focus in the Christian community on the Proverbs 31 women. What is not to love? She cooks, she sews, she spends money wisely, and her children and husband love and obey her. I am not trying to mock the verses; it is a standard we Christian mommies should strive for. However there is another verse for Christian mommies we are quick to overlook.
So do not deprive each other of sexual relations. The only exception to this rule would be the agreement of both husband and wife to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time, so they can give themselves more completely to prayer. Afterward they should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt them because of their lack of self-control. (1 Cor. 7:5, NLT)
Yes ladies, I’m talking about sex. Or more accurately, the sad lack of it that is going on in many marriages. When I told a friend I was going to be blogging about sex she responded, “But you have a Christian blog.” This is where we Christians are seriously missing the boat. Did you see the scripture reference at the end of the quotation? God talks about sex in the Bible. And not just to tell us not to have it. He is telling married people to have it regularly. Now this commandment made not have made it in to the top 10, but it was important enough to make it into the big book. So why is it often overlooked?
I talk to a lot of mommies. A lot of women post-kids complain about losing interest in sex. Some regard it as a chore, some as a duty to just get over with, some as something done once a month during ovulation to try and procreate. At best, some regard it as something that sounds nice, but they’re just too dang tired to enjoy. Ladies, God gave us sex as a gift to enjoy with our husbands. Don’t believe me? How about a quick anatomy lesson? Women have something even men don’t when it comes to sex. An organ devoted entirely to sexual pleasure (if I lost you, it rhymes with Delores). So why aren’t we enjoying it more?
Let me pause for a moment and say…Mom stop reading my blog for just a minute. It will be safe to come back tomorrow. To my single friends-I know you think this premise is crazy. If you are staying pure, waiting for Mr. Right, you may find it insane that there are married women running around complaining about having to have sex. I could give you our excuses: the kids are making me tired, I don’t have the body I used to, Grey’s Anatomy is on, he doesn’t bring me flowers anymore… but the fact is, we married women often drop the ball (does this make you giggle, no, sorry).
So here’s the deal. Every Monday, I will be posting a challenge on my website to encourage us wives to step it up to improve the sex in our marriages. It will be tasteful (pretty much), it will be fun, it will be great for your marriage, it will be pleasing to God. What more can you ask for? Let me be clear, this is for the MARRIED ladies and their HUBBIES. The rest of you have to sit this one out
For those ladies who are already rock-stars in this area -kudos to you (and your lucky hubbies)! I suspect however that the bulk of us need a little encouraging. So are you brave enough to jump in? If so, leave me a comment. I would love it if you would reference the challenge on your blog, twitter, Facebook, skywriting whatever works. If you want to post the button linking to this contest in your sidebar, I can give you the code. Also, I will be setting up a P.O. Box for all the thank you cards (preferably with cash in them) that your hubbies want to send.
Are you up for the challenge?
Week 1: Fix Your Boudoir
Week 2: Mama Needs A New Pair Of Panties
Week 3: How Illuminating!
Week 4: Shock and Awe
Week 6: When In France
Week 8: Take It Off!!
Week 9: Tell Him What You Want
Week 10: Shake It Up Baby Now
Week 11: Let’s Talk About Sex Baby
Week 12: Let’s Get Physical
Week 13: A Weekend Getaway
Week 14: The Challenge of Purity
Week 15: A Change in Scenery
Week 16: Try a Nooner
Week 18: Who Knew The Brain Could Be So Sexy?
Week 19: Laughter, The Best Aphrodisiac
Week 20: The Grand Finale