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The Challenge (A Refresher)

1-cor-challenge Oh yeah, its back. Cause I don’t know about you, but don’t you just need a reminder, a refresher, a support group of women who are jonesing for some marital hokey pokey? I would love to tell you I have come up with a whole bunch of new challenges to put a spark back into your marriage, but I am not that good. So I am starting at the beginning and we are doing them again. I will tweek them a bit, and if you have any fun ideas for a challenge, I am more than happy to add them in. If your new, perfect, join on in. If you’ve done these the first time around, I am betting you could still stand a second go at it. And I thought I would be nice and start your New Year’s Resolution list for you. I’m such a giver.

Are you in? Your husband wants you to be…

There has been a ton of focus in the Christian community on the Proverbs 31 women. What is not to love? She cooks, she sews, she spends money wisely, and her children and husband love and obey her. I am not trying to mock the verses; it is a standard we Christian mommies should strive for. However there is another verse for Christian mommies we are quick to overlook.

So do not deprive each other of sexual relations. The only exception to this rule would be the agreement of both husband and wife to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time, so they can give themselves more completely to prayer. Afterward they should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt them because of their lack of self-control. (1 Cor. 7:5, NLT)

Yes ladies, I’m talking about sex. Or more accurately, the sad lack of it that is going on in many marriages. When I told a friend I was going to be blogging about sex she responded, “But you have a Christian blog.” This is where we Christians are seriously missing the boat. Did you see the scripture reference at the end of the quotation? God talks about sex in the Bible. And not just to tell us not to have it. He is telling married people to have it regularly. Now this commandment made not have made it in to the top 10, but it was important enough to make it into the big book. So why is it often overlooked?

I talk to a lot of mommies. A lot of women post-kids complain about losing interest in sex. Some regard it as a chore, some as a duty to just get over with, some as something done once a month during ovulation to try and procreate. At best, some regard it as something that sounds nice, but they’re just too dang tired to enjoy. Ladies, God gave us sex as a gift to enjoy with our husbands. Don’t believe me? How about a quick anatomy lesson? Women have something even men don’t when it comes to sex. An organ devoted entirely to sexual pleasure (if I lost you, it rhymes with Delores). So why aren’t we enjoying it more?

Let me pause for a moment and say…Mom stop reading my blog for just a minute. It will be safe to come back tomorrow. To my single friends-I know you think this premise is crazy. If you are staying pure, waiting for Mr. Right, you may find it insane that there are married women running around complaining about having to have sex. I could give you our excuses: the kids are making me tired, I don’t have the body I used to, Grey’s Anatomy is on, he doesn’t bring me flowers anymore… but the fact is, we married women often drop the ball (does this make you giggle, no, sorry).

So here’s the deal. Every Monday, I will be posting a challenge on my website to encourage us wives to step it up to improve the sex in our marriages. It will be tasteful (pretty much), it will be fun, it will be great for your marriage, it will be pleasing to God. What more can you ask for? Let me be clear, this is for the MARRIED ladies and their HUBBIES. The rest of you have to sit this one out :)

For those ladies who are already rock-stars in this area -kudos to you (and your lucky hubbies)! I suspect however that the bulk of us need a little encouraging. So are you brave enough to jump in? If so, leave me a comment. I would love it if you would reference the challenge on your blog, twitter, Facebook, skywriting whatever works. If you want to post the button linking to this contest in your sidebar, I can give you the code. Also, I will be setting up a P.O. Box for all the thank you cards (preferably with cash in them) that your hubbies want to send.

Are you up for the challenge?

Week 1: Fix Your Boudoir

Week 2: Mama Needs A New Pair Of Panties

Week 3: How Illuminating!

Week 4: Shock and Awe

Week 5: Double Your Pleasure, Double Your Fun

Week 6: When In France

Week 7: How Bout Something A Little Racy (and Lacy)

Week 8: Take It Off!!

Week 9: Tell Him What You Want

Week 10: Shake It Up Baby Now

Week 11: Let’s Talk About Sex Baby

Week 12: Let’s Get Physical

Week 13: A Weekend Getaway

Week 14: The Challenge of Purity

Week 15: A Change in Scenery

Week 16: Try a Nooner

Week 17: I Feel Like Makin’ Love (Sunday at 10 pm)

Week 18: Who Knew The Brain Could Be So Sexy?

Week 19: Laughter, The Best Aphrodisiac

Week 20: The Grand Finale

Comments

  1. I’m in.

    We are THAT familys last blog post..THAT Family Tree Society-Issue 24

  2. I’m up for it (And so’s my husband, hehehe)–the button will be on my blog!

    Esthers last blog post..This Week’s Top Posts + Ethan’s Birthday

  3. Sounds good-Count me in!

  4. I’m in!! I’ll post the button as soon as I’ve got my posts up and running again. Blessings!

    Brandy T.s last blog post..Slowly Speeding Up

  5. Looking forward to coming back in the morning and seeing what step one is. :)

    chaotic joys last blog post..The longest year-end Meme ever…

  6. Ohhhhh I am so in….

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  7. I’m in!

    Natalies last blog post..I’m Saucy!

  8. Andrea@Under Grace & Over Coffee says:

    So cool! And I would love to put your button on my blog!

  9. I’d love to participate and feature a button on my blog.

    Thanks!

    iMommys last blog post..Starting the 2009 Chapter in Our Lives

  10. Yes please – I would love the button code for my blog! I hear so many of these excuses from other young moms, and believe me I get as tired as they do, but it is about so much more than sex and I get sad that some women don’t realize that. I am looking forward to sharing this with them!

    Sarah Kays last blog post..Where in the world is Lily?

  11. Hey! I’m in! We’re TTC so for at least a week each month I do OK but I know I can do better all month long! I’d love the button too! Thanks!

    Stephanies last blog post..Big Update!

  12. You may become the most popular blogger on here among the hubby crowd. Good for you! Most of us do need a little encouragement in this area. Kudos to you for being brave enough to tackle this.

    debbies last blog post..I’m back, baby!

  13. I’m in. Question is- should I let my husband in on it or just surprise him? Hee-Hee!

    Beth@Not a Bow in Sights last blog post..Out with the Old, In with the New

  14. i’m in too, although as a newly-wed i doubt this will be as much of a “challenge” for me

    Brookes last blog post..Weekend Shopping Extravaganza

  15. Hey, the girls and I are in. We set up a private account so we can hold each other accountable to the “challenge.” I would love to put your button on our blog. Let me know how we can do that. I’ll keep you posted on our progress. Let the “challenge” begin!!

  16. So glad you’re doing this. I was a ‘Rock Star’ when we got married and now, with 7 kids…it’s dwindled to twice a month.

    Just a note: Hubby not Happy!!

    It’s the 20lbs I want to lose, hubby says, and I quote, “If I had the choice to look at all the bathing beauties on a beach or look at you bare…I would look at you!!”. He’s mine!!

    I’ll be back every Monday..and I’ll tell my hubby where to send the check!

    Kristins last blog post..I had a WONDERFUL Christmas!!

  17. I’ll give it ago and I’ll post the button on my blog as well. Would you please send me the code.

    Stephanies last blog post..de-cluttering my virtual space – part 1

  18. I’m thinking about it…

    Jenny from Mommin’ It Up!s last blog post..A New Year’s Resolution for our Daughters

  19. I am in…my husband will love you for this…would also love to put a button on my sidebar! This is gonna be fun!

    Mom of Faiths last blog post..Modern Mom Challenge~Week 1

  20. i’m in

  21. I’m so in! My marriage NEEDS THIS!!!! Thanks for bringing it back.

    Amandas last blog post..I KNEW it was gonna happen – JUST KNEW IT!

  22. Heather H says:

    I so need this! I’m in!

    Heather Hs last blog post..Support Local Business

  23. Can I have my husband be the one doing the challenges? :) JK… I drag him kicking and screaming!

    Cheers!
    Jamie

    PolkaDotMommys last blog post..ALLI?!?!?!?!

  24. I’m in!

    Courtneys last blog post..double l’s new furniture update

  25. Um, yeah, I have to say that his is a very good idea. :)

    Gidgets last blog post..It’s the Absolute Ultimate!! #15~ Preserving Memories, Part 3

  26. I am in.

    Christas last blog post..Times to remember

  27. Rachel says:

    I’m so in! Can you email me the code so I can put it in my sidebar?

    future.pastors.wife (at) gmail.com

    Rachels last blog post..Mini-Hiatus

  28. Stephanie says:

    I’m in too =)

  29. Okay, I’ll do it. Hubby and I have worked a lot on this, but I’m sure he’d appreciate any refresher I take… :)

    Steph at the Red Clay Diariess last blog post..I’m not bitter. Just unsweetened

  30. sounds like fun..I am in!!!!

    the characters last blog post..Best Christmas EVER, a Mary one!

  31. I am so in!!

    Playful Professionals last blog post..Reading, Running, and Recooperating

  32. I DID put your button on my blog. (hope that’s ok.) and I’m excited to do this since I missed it the first time around. can’t wait for the first round on monday!

    Erin Gs last blog post..First Big Boy Shoes

  33. Elizabeth says:

    You are so right about it all! I catch myself complaining about sex all the time. But it is such a gift and such an important part of marriage. My husband would say it is the MOST important part, of course.

    Would you send me the code? I am definitely in. And smart thinking about the p.o. box. You are going to need it.

    Elizabeths last blog post..Project 365, Pictures 1-4

  34. Kristen says:

    Okay, I must fess up here and tell you I am a newlywed. So, while we aren’t really lacking in this area I still want to play along. I mean, I love your blog. And Andrea from Under Grace & Over Coffee is doing it…so I don’t want to be left out. lol. She encouraged me to get over here and join anyway!

    Is it okay that a young newlywed join the mix?

    Plus I know for sure my Man won’t complain. ; )

    Kristens last blog post..Let’s Hope It’s A Good One, Without Any Fear

  35. I will definitely be up for it in like 4 weeks or so…my husband knows the date for sure! Missed reading but glad to be back!

  36. Heather says:

    Hubby thinks I am a rock star, LMBO! But this challenge sounds like fun so I am in. I twittered it and I will post the button on my blog tomorrow. :)

    Heathers last blog post..Website for Sale: Crafty Mom Blog

  37. My husband will worship the ground you walk on…….and I’d love to put a button on my blog!

    Katis last blog post..Colds…Colds..Go Away…

  38. Okay dude, you’re on. Probably the least I can co to pay my husband back for the witch I’ve been this fall… ;)

    Kristas last blog post..Cory-isms Again

  39. Leigh Anne says:

    I’m IN!!!!!

    And when I get to know you a little better, remdind me to tell you what I got my husband for Christmas. It wasn’t a tie!

    Leigh Annes last blog post..Best News Ever.

  40. I’m totally in! This is so timely, our pastor just did an awesome series called “LOVE U” and alot of it was about sex and how that is something God made to improve and enhance our relationships. He did some Q&A and somebody asked about oral sex and he explained that the Bible doesn’t say not to do it and how its okay. He paused and said “All the guys say ‘Amen'”, it was so funny!

  41. So glad the challenge is back. I am in and I am encouraging all my friends to join too. I’m in/

    Raines last blog post..A Backward Glace at 2008

  42. i’m in!

    girlymamas last blog post..some things have gots to change ’round here

  43. Denise says:

    Oh boy!

  44. sounds great! I’ll post your button, too!

    Coralees last blog post..Olivia’s Monkey

  45. I am always up for a good challenge and I would like to do this. For me, for my marriage, my husband and for God. I think it is great! Send me the link for your button. I will gladly place it on my blog.

    MLs last blog post..Laughter is Contagious!

  46. i’m in. i think? haha.

    jens last blog post..Silhouettes

  47. Kathryn says:

    I’m kinda sorta in. DH is out of town on business until the end of the month so I’ll lag behind a bit. If anyone needs to reconnect … it is us

  48. Jen@BigBinder says:

    Totally in! Thanks for “Bringin’ Sex(y) Back”…. again.

    Jen@BigBinders last blog post..Thank YOU!

  49. I’m in!! Hey, this is my kind of challenge:)

    Dawns last blog post..The Consumer Product Safety Improvement Act

  50. Count me in, too.

  51. I think even this Unitarian could use tis challenge :D

    Alissas last blog post..Lists Keeping- On Wall and Online

  52. Sarah @ Short Stop says:

    I think this is utterly and completely fantastic in every way! In. Totally in!

    Sarah @ Short Stops last blog post..Blurb Books: Tips, Tricks, and Time Savers

  53. I enter this with fear and trepidation, but surety that it will benefit both of us. This is a struggle at both ends. Thank you.

  54. Amanda says:

    I’m in. The hubby and I have been talking about improving this area of our life. This is a God send for us. I’m not going to tell him, just see if he notices. Thanks for doing this, I think it’ll really help our little family.

  55. I’m in, but I’ll have to sit out for a while – baby boy is only three weeks old. ;-)Hubby thanks you!!!

    Aunt LoLos last blog post..Christmas in Casa LoLo

  56. I read your challenge every day last year so I am game for trying this year.

    Hotomoms last blog post..Okay one more… sorry

  57. Mrs. Hewett says:

    This certainly sounds intriguing. Please keep me in the loop.

  58. I may regret this but I’m in! HA!

  59. Christin says:

    You are too funny! YES! I am in! My hubby would be one of those sending you cash, I can guarantee that! HA HA! Thanks for this!

  60. count me in…..I think….

    Maries last blog post..Wisdom Teeth and Adjustments….

  61. Courtney says:

    I found your challenge through CSAHM.com and I am in.

    Courtneys last blog post..What Kind of Reader Are You?

  62. Kathi C says:

    I’m in!! Great idea. I know my husband will appreciate it!

  63. Kasandra says:

    I am IN!

  64. I’ll do it! Hubby just reminded me today that I need to be the sexiest woman he sees all day. Wouldn’t want to disappoint… Oh, and if you need more material from him, there’s more where that came from! :)

    Amys last blog post..Clarifying Facial Soap Oddities

  65. I’m in too &…my husband will thank you for sure.

    he & me +3s last blog post..Word-Filled Wednesday-S!

  66. I’m in.

    Just found this site via CSAHMs and love the idea of this challenge. Count me (& da hubby ;-) ) in.

  67. Awesome challenge! While I absolutely love making love to my husband and think we have a much-better-than-average sex life, there is always room for improvement.

    I was just talking to my husband about how I get so wrapped up in the kids and their problems that I tend to forget that he needs me just as much as they do, though in a different way. This will be great for helping me to keep him in top priority.

    Revkas last blog post..Merry Christmas!

  68. What a neat idea! Hubbie and I just had baby 4 about 5 months ago so “I’m tired”, “the baby isn’t sleeping yet”, and “maybe tomorrow” are frequently heard in my house. Although I am familiar with this verse, it kind of gets lost in the day to day shuffle of mommy-ing and taking care of necessities that I sometimes forget “it” is a necessity also. I will be looking forward to Mondays!

    Ginnys last blog post..Eyeglass case for charity

  69. I’m looking forward to reading up on these challenges. My hubby is getting ready to take a long trip right now (that’s the military for you), but I’ll be saving the posts so that I can try these out come May! :o) I’m sure he’ll be one of many sending the cash-filled thank you cards, LOL!

    Arlenes last blog post..Little Break

  70. Oh, and I meant to say I already posted your button on my blog. I’ll try to remember to post about it when I get the chance :o)

    Arlenes last blog post..Little Break

  71. Stephanie says:

    I am in!!!!

  72. Lisa Schuemann says:

    I’m in for the Challenge! My sister-in-law in Michigan turned me on to your blog. I love getting the daily e-mails. Always brightens my day!

  73. I’m in! And looking forward to shakin’ it all about!

  74. Grrrr8!

    Laurens last blog post..Babies Need Baths Too

  75. Count me in.

    Shelleys last blog post..Maddie Asks Why

  76. Rebecca says:

    I just found your blog today and I’m in!

  77. I’m so in!

    Malias last blog post..What’s Happening On Blissfully Domestic

  78. I’m in!!!

    Jenny 867-5309s last blog post..Sincerely Fro Me to You – Oops!

  79. I am definitely in!

  80. I’ve read some of your past challenges and thought it was interesting. I would like to join in. NO, I won’t be posting your button on my blog, because my hubby reads there, and then he’d be all, “what’s that?” and I don’t want to go there just yet. But I’m up for some excitement.

    Paiges last blog post..How’s that for random?

  81. Found the link on a friend’s blog and had to check it out… I read it outloud to my husband not knowing what the challenge was about… Ok, feeling guilty cause I gave an excuse yesterday! :( Now, my husband thinks your blog is the best out there and I would love to start the challenge too!

  82. Summer says:

    My friend sent this to me after an interesting conversation we had just this week. How timely…

    Sure. I’m in.

  83. I think I forgot to post that I’m in. Hubby won’t let me remove the tv, but I am in charge of it…hehehe. If I say off, off it goes. Woohoo!

    Jessica Alexanders last blog post..Mrs. Crabby Patty

  84. I am in! My husband and I have recently ‘rediscovered’ each other. We have never been more in tune with each other before. I look forward to making our sex life even better! :)

  85. I so need to do this for my marriage! Thank you!

  86. I’m in! Sorry, I found out about this a little late…but, better late than never! Thanks for a great challenge and encouragement to bless my husband!

    We were just discussing the other day how we need to make our marriage a priority…and ESPECIALLY our love life.

    Mrs. Qs last blog post..Everyday Blessings

  87. Shannon says:

    I put your button on my blog. I can’t wait to do this.

  88. I’m in!

    Jenns last blog post..How Do You View Prayer?

  89. My first visit to your blog, and this is great! I’ll post about this, too, and I’m in. ♥

  90. I am in! After 3 kids of our own and doing in home daycare with 4 other boys I am so tired(see my excuse) at the end of the day! Thanks for doing this!
    Sarah

    Sarahs last blog post..Does anyone know?

  91. I’m in. This should be fun, no?

    Tays last blog post..Reading Day.

  92. love this idea, had the same one, but this will keep me on track!
    I’m in!

    Niffers last blog post..WOOHOO!

  93. Sylvia says:

    LOVE accountability partners! Count me in! I’ve just read “Sheet Music” and “Intimate Issues.” This will keep me on track!

  94. Awesome, count me in! Added your button ;)

    Veronicas last blog post..Distractions..

  95. Christy says:

    This might be what I’m needing! I’ll add the button to my sidebar. Thanks!
    Christy

    Christys last blog post..Weekend Goals

  96. i’m in

    Katies last blog post..Christmas Catch up!

  97. OK, I’m going to do it!

  98. I’m so in!

    Abbys last blog post..Halloween Festivities

  99. Amber says:

    I’m in

  100. Looking forward to the challenges and pleasing my husband!

    Rhondas last blog post..The Many Faces of Caden Rylee

  101. I’m in too!! Sounds fun!!

  102. Jessica says:

    Love this idea, count me in!!!

  103. Missy says:

    Count me in!

    Missys last blog post..Kaden’s Newborn Pictures

  104. Bonnie says:

    Me, too! I’ll be posting about it on my personal blog, but the button is up on my main blog.

    Oh, and I’m so glad to have relief from that crazy Proverbs woman. Talk about unattainable goals…

    Bonnies last blog post..Project 365 – Day 12 – Me on Monday

  105. Fun, I’m in!

    Kates last blog post..sending cards

  106. I just found our about this and I am SO in. We just (well 8 months ago) had a baby and it has put a damper on that great part of our marriage. I am ready for some great advice and encouragement!

    Jesicas last blog post..Sunrise

  107. I read it on Jamie’s blog. I am definitely in.

    Jennifer Valeries last blog post..I hoped to…

  108. Sounds like fun! Can’t wait!! :)
    (My husband is going to love you)

    Kerens last blog post..{The Challenge::)

  109. Good reminder to clean my room and make my bed…before we muss it up again! YEE-HAW! Dan and I are unabashadly in.

    Jennas last blog post..Why we don’t

  110. I’m in!

    Jills last blog post..Magical bursting eardrum

  111. I’m in! Hubby is gonna love this….

  112. Andrea @ Mommy Snacks.net says:

    I’m in too – just catching up! Can’t wait :-)

  113. I’m in….thank you so much for this….this is a hard topic for a lot of women to talk about.

    Melissas last blog post..The Simple Woman’s Daybook

  114. I am in :) Amen to it not being taught to more Christian women.

  115. ruth a. stiles says:

    I think we (Christians) have let society determine what is okay to talk about outside the bed and what is not…what is taboo or not proper or right and wrong SHOULD not be decided by society…Sex is of God. sex was given by God….and we need to stop hiding from talking about it….There is a time and a place yes…but there is nothing wrong with it!
    I am in…I am excited!…hubby will be happy!

    ruth a. stiless last blog post..My Testimony

  116. Love it! This was our message on Sunday and how perfect I stumbled upon your blog, I would love to take part :)

  117. I’m up for the challenge – It’s been 8 years that my husband has been waiting for such a challenge!

  118. I think my husband would love for me to participate in this. :)

    Melodys last blog post..Sshhhh…

  119. Alyssa says:

    Count me in!!!

  120. Awesome! I’m in! And I would love to share your challenge with friends on my blog…

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  121. I’m in. Sounds fun, and I like a challenge.

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  122. ok I am SO in…and I posted your button in my sidebar AND in the post twice :)

    CAnt wait to get started! :)

    Kelly Dawn

    Kelly Dawns last blog post..Take the Challenge….

  123. I’m in!

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  124. I am sooo glad someone is writing about this! I agree wholeheartedly, and I’m in for the challenge! =D

    Lois Lane IIs last blog post..Going gumbo

  125. lizzybit says:

    I would love to join your challange. I am a Mom of two boys 12 and 13. My 13 year old son is disabled, I babysit for a 2 1/2 year old little girl full time and I have just went back to college on line full time, I am also very devoted to volunteering through church. Sometimes it is easy to forget how to be intimate and not feel like it is a job. I look forward to the inspiration!

  126. Would love a button. 24 years of marriage in March, 4 kids & we just graduated from a full to a king size bed. Woohoo! PTL, we are fearfully & wonderfully made!

    Pattis last blog post..Kitchen Waterfall

  127. I’m in- thanks to Carlee!!

    Megans last blog post..marriage challenge {thanks carlee- great challenge!}

  128. prego mamma says:

    I’m in! I love this idea!

  129. I am certainly in need of this. Thanks for posting!

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  130. I am up to the challenge.
    The question is….Is My Husband??
    He seems to be the one with the excuses.

    Dawns last blog post..Verse

  131. I’m in. And I’m working on my haven. :)

  132. Sakura says:

    I think I’m in… lol

  133. Wow, there are other Christians who think sex (gasp, isn’t that a dirty word!?) is important!
    I’m a newlywed who never so much as kissed or held hands with her husband (though we really wanted to…) until we got married. SO, it sure hasn’t gotten old yet :^)
    I think my parents were concerned that I was so virginal it would make it harder to be intimate, but I don’t think it did. Perhaps the opposite.

    Just the same, I’ll try to keep up with the challenge :) See how much I can spoil dear husband…

    I should get our room cleaned back up, it tends to get so cluttered.
    I like to keep matches and candles handy to light on little notice
    And I saw the suggestion not to keep pictures of your kids in sight…. We don’t have any children yet, but I can see how that makes since…. Our marriage covenant and a wedding picture are at the wall nearest the foot of the bed, though.
    Makes a nice thing to look at during afterglow :)

    And, I payed extra for some satiny sheets at Wal-mart – one of the few things I’ve learned (I feel experienced but I’m still new at this!) it’s easier to be romantic when you have kingly softs sheet that make you feel like your man’s queen :)

    Now I’ll sit back and read what ppl who’ve been doing this longer have to say

  134. Blue Castle says:

    Okay, I’m late, but I’m in. Just found out about this and put the button up on my blog. Thank you. :)

    Blue Castles last blog post..Math: My Murderer

  135. Blue Castle says:

    Okay, I’m late, but I’m in. Just found out about this and put the button up on my blog. Thank you. :)

    Blue Castles last blog post..Math: My Murderer

  136. I’m in. Just found this link.
    My husband will love you for this.

  137. Mom of One says:

    I am in and have your button on your blog. Thanks things are looking up already LOL

  138. Carla says:

    OK OK i am in this is not going to be easy at all!!!!

  139. I LOVE this! You don’t have to twist my arm!;)

    Rena Gunthers last blog post..The Daily Mercies

  140. I’m in! Sounds great.

  141. I’m definitely in!

  142. Deborah says:

    I’d like to be a part of this. I’m an American married to a wonderful Australian man living in Queensland, Australia. We will celebrate our second anniversary in March.

    For most of the first year of our marriage, my husband has been suffering from depression…meaning he’s not in the mood very often…and we are seldom in synce because of this.

    I’d love some help with this. I take it personally and that affects our marriage even more. I know that it is not personal. I know that the Lord is able to grant my husband victory over his depression and bring him out of it.

    I’m hoping this topic can be touched on in light of God’s Word. How a wife is to responde when feeling neglected due to a husbands illness, whether physical or mental (depression). Help! I want to have a good attitude. I know I need to be wary of bitterness taking root.

    This has been especially difficult as we talk of having children, but the action isn’t happening at the right time. I know this is all in God’s time and in His hands. I just want to be an encouragement and have the right attitude…and get beyond feeling neglected. I need some support.

    Thank You!
    Deborah

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  143. Robin ~ PENSIEVE says:

    143 comments? Shazaaam!!! What a challenge! I hope everyone’s “whoopin'” it up!!

    Good for YOU! Still needing to finish my companion post :/ (but I’m stumbling this for even more exposure!).

    :)

  144. Just added the button! Thanks and look forward to doing the challenge!!

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  145. Ooh! I’m going to add your button to my blog too!

    And could you please address ways for women to gain control over their minds? I’ve found that my mind is the biggest hinderence for me in this area… I get distracted, anxious, unfocused, etc, at the worst possible times, which of course means that my body isn’t interested either!

    I feel like this is beyond my control, but I suspect there’s something I can do to change this.

    Please help! :)

    reborns last blog post..Pantry Organization Day

  146. Added your button to my blog…I am loving this challenge. For week 2, I gave hubby free reign over my panty drawer & let him toss anything he didn’t like. One less thing for me to do. Woot!

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  147. Can’t wait to do these challenges. Will add your button asap. I like to remind myself that when the hubby wants to do it it’s because he thinks I am hot. That can put a girl in the mood.What girl doesn’t want to be wanted? I like the drawer access idea above. THANKS!

    Jens last blog post..Instead of crying,

  148. I am so in!!! This is awesome. I will clean the room tonight once hubby has left for work.

    Jessis last blog post..Daily Devotion- Be Renewed

  149. Amanda says:

    I’m in!

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  150. Is it too late to get in because I would absolutely love to get involved. And I know my husband would love it too!

  151. I just stumbled over this blog, and oh my, this is amazing! I would love to join in, if I can!

    Jennifers last blog post..January Round Up–Filing Cabinet

  152. Thanks! I added your button on my blog. I am in!

    I just finished watching fireproof, so i am motivated to have the best marriage I can.

    LaVonnes last blog post..And One More Thing

  153. Leslie says:

    May want to try reading “365 Nights” by Charla Mueller. Very thought provoking, sometimes irreverent and, in general an INTERESTING read.

  154. Very cool. I am in on the challenge. i am actually going to start tomorrow!
    Thanks carrie

    Carries last blog post..Ethan’s first birthday party

  155. Great idea! I’m in! I am linking to it and inviting my readers to join. sounds like fun! I think I will have to start after my kids are better from bronchitis and the flu though. After that, lol, oh baby!

    IE Mommys last blog post..An Interview with Kirk Cameron of Fireproof

  156. Im definetly in, i need the help.

    Kats last blog post..MORE SNOW!!

  157. I am in!! Adding your button to my blog.

  158. Melissa says:

    I just stumbled upon this today and I’m in if i’m not too late? Something that definitely needs to be worked on a bit in my marriage.

    Melissas last blog post..Friday

  159. You are so smart! Thanks!

    Sarahs last blog post..Honestly Tagalisicious

  160. This is so neat! Super awesome topic for your CHRISTIAN blog!!! You go girl…I’m totally in…my hubby will be THRILLED!

  161. I found this wonderful challenge a couple weeks ago and it has already worked wonders. I added your button near the top of my sidebar so that everytime I open my blog page I am reminded of the challenge and what I should be doing to make my marriage a priority.

  162. Great meeting you this weekend! Love this series!

    Tricias last blog post..Once A Month Grocery Watch List for Week 2

  163. ruth a. stiles says:

    I am so enjoying this challenge….it is great to see the “change” in how I approach love making now…

    ruth a. stiless last blog post..The Challenge continued…

  164. I am sooo nodding my head in agreement right now and laughing at the same time. You hit the target straight on and I’m happy to have found you! thank u!

    jen olsens last blog post..Dancing stilettos.

  165. My husband can’t wait for me to get in on this challenge. He just subscribed to my blog so I’m anxious to see what he says when I post the button. :) LOL

    Angies last blog post..Toy Yoda addition..

  166. I had to come back and here put a link to my post about the challenge. Thanks for hosting this!

    http://catholicgirlyzoo.blogspot.com/2009/02/marriage-challenge.html

  167. i am new to your blog and stumbled upon this challenge!
    I love it!
    I got a great book back in the fall that helped… for awhile… called “Songs in the Key of Solomon” by Anita Renfroe and her husband. it is great and i highly recommend it!
    I wikll join your challenge and catch up the best I can!

    thanks ! you are a blessing!

  168. I am a newly wed…I don’t want this to loose this in our marriage…I will try my best to keep up with the challenges.

  169. this is the correct site…

  170. Tracey says:

    I hope I’m not too late to sign up!

    Gonna put your button on my blog and already posted it to my Facebook!

    Woo Hoo…something to be excited about!

    Traceys last blog post..Where does the weekend go?

  171. Lyndsi says:

    I found this through Works for Me Wednesday and I’m in =) I added it to my blog.

  172. glad I found the website – this is exactly what I needed right now!!

    Shelleys last blog post..Poor Little Man

  173. I’m so in. It will be fun!

    Vespers last blog post..The price is right!

  174. Wow, if I were married, I would be so in! Thanks for recognizing us single women, and this will be something I reference when I become married to my Mr Right!

  175. Natalie says:

    I’m in. Yippeeee!

    Natalies last blog post..The Challenge

  176. I am in! My poor husband has been a bit lonely lately. I need some motivation!

    Emilys last blog post..Ahhh, coffee…

  177. Dana Hilton says:

    I love having sex it is my husband that isn’t into it. I would have sex every day of the week if possible!!!!

  178. I am IN! Yay! I’m so excited :) I put your button on my blog!
    .-= Jaime´s last blog ..Christian Summer Camp =-.

  179. This is such a great challenge! Especially putting sex back in the RIGHT frame of mind for us married women who get so overwhelmed with every day life and little things. I’m starting fresh, thanks!

  180. Elizabeth Hanson says:

    You will probably think I’m lying, and many others might too, but my mom quoted this same verse to me when I first got married!! Having sex with my husband, helps me on sooo many levels! Self-esteem-wise I feel great, because he actually still wants me after having 8 children! (God bless him!) And lets not forget stress relief for both of us as well!! And did you know it actually can stop a migraine? And lets not forget it reminding me that my husband and I ARE one!!!! You have a blessed way of writing!! God bless you and I pray that He furthers you in this!!!!

  181. Amber M. says:

    I’m in for sure! Thank you for coming up with this challenge! God bless you.

  182. Bookmarked! I’m in!
    .-= Messy Mommy´s last blog ..it’s time to party =-.

  183. I know it’s been a while since I first took part in this challenge, but I mentioned this challenge to the Rachael Ray show since they are posting secrets to “rev up” the bedroom after baby… I couldn’t help but mention this!

  184. Added your button to our blog :) we are in :)
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  185. This won’t be difficult. My hubby always asks for the lights on…or the afternoon sunlight. Yep, we totally keep the shades open…a little. :D
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  186. Anderson Breitling says:

    Valuable info. Lucky me I discovered your website by accident, and I’m shocked why this accident did not happened earlier! I bookmarked it.

  187. I am beyond late BUT I am starting this challege… TODAY! I am founder of The Miami Young Wives Club, Inc and I am going to share it with the wives of my group as well. :) Thanx.

  188. I am waaaaaayyyy late but I am loving this, and I am needing this refresher!!! Glad I found your blog!

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