I think one of the most dangerous things we can do as married people is read other people’s story and think it can’t happen to us. Amy’s story serves as a cautionary tale and is a bit of a teaser to her newly released eBook, Entangled.
My husband and I met when I was only 15 in 10th grade. Within two weeks of meeting and multiple phone calls, we were officially boyfriend and girlfriend. I wasn’t even old enough to properly call it dating. Within two months of meeting I was sure we were going to get married. And sure enough, 4 years later, just 2 weeks before I started my junior year of college, we were honeymooning on the coast of Florida.
As newlyweds, we were already leaders in our church, I was an honor student and I was sure we’d somehow miss all the potholes we were warned about in Sunday School marriage lessons. Seven years later after two children and my husband’s temper began taking its toll, I found myself leaning into a friend at work for emotional support.
He was attentive and complimentary. He never complained about my family and didn’t know the dishes weren’t clean. It was like a fresh breath of air. And I couldn’t get enough. The relationship developed with lightning speed until we were having intimate conversations over instant messenger late into the night while my husband was working. My husband finally confronted me about the relationship where I admitted things were more serious than I had let on.
I spent the next months and years untangling myself from misplaced feelings and deceptive lies. But God never let me stew in my own sin, constantly calling me out when I faltered, showing me more grace than I deserved. My husband was angry at first but displayed so much patience, compassion and forgiveness over the years. Six years later while we still have scars and issues, we have come out more aware of our weak areas yet stronger than ever.
I may have been naive as a newlywed but I had the Sunday School answer that always works: Jesus. Who knows what we’ll face in the next thirteen years but I know we’ll survive by the grace of God.
God taught me so many things that helps me survive and even thrive in our marriage and I would love to share more in my new eBook, Entangled.
Amy’s book is really powerful. She has let us peek inside her marriage in an incredibly vulnerable way. In my opinion it should be required reading for all married women. It is for sale for only $4.99 so grab it up and affair proof your marriage.