Last week Lily came home and told us that some girls came up to her at school and said, “We’re popular and you’re not.” I felt like I had been socked in the gut. I also suddenly felt very strongly that there were somewhere some 4th grade girls who I wanted to hurt a little.
Mean girls. I have actually been on both sides of the equation. I am not proud of the fact that I know back in the day that I was on the mean end of the mean girl spectrum. But as I listened to a sermon this weekend about how much words hurt, I was immediately transported back to a 7th grade bus where my “friends” sat and said horrible things about me. And it barely hurt less in church last weekend than it did at the time. Mean girls suck.
I am acutely aware that my job in mothering my girls is to do my best to help them understand that they are amazing not because of what anyone may or may not tell them, but because of whose image they were created. It is an uphill battle that I know will only get harder as they get older.
Tomorrow, I’m co-hosting a live chat tomorrow with author Rachel Simmons. She is the author of The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence. To be honest I haven’t read the book, but I love the concept. We will be talking about raising confident girls and I can totally get behind that.
I don’t know if you have done a Motherhood chat before, but I always end the chat AMAZED at the info I have learned. Imagine a bunch of mothers getting together and flooding you with their wisdom. As I navigate motherhood, I can use all the advice I can get.
The chat will take place on Tuesday, January 31 at 12:00 p.m. EST, on TheMotherhood.com, I really hope you will join us. I would love to “see” some familiar faces around.
While I am being compensated for participating in the chat tomorrow, I was not required to blog about my participation. I just think it is a great topic you might be interested in so I wanted to share the details with you