It seems as though the end of the year is a good time for introspection. Looking back over the year we are in a very different place than last year at this time. And that is a good thing in so many ways.
Last year going into the holidays our family was feeling a bit battered from the foster care system. We had so many times we were told one thing only to have the opposite happen. And although the beginning of last December we didn’t quite know it yet, this would be the month when rights were terminated and baby S’s future became up in the air. Should we adopt her? Would a relative adopt her? If not, where would she go?
It was a time of emotional (and often times physical) exhaustion, the depths of which I didn’t even realize until much later.
Baby S left our family in April of this year and in October I stood in a court room and celebrated her formal adoption into her amazing new family. To say that was an emotional day is an understatement. But it brought about so much healing and closure I didn’t even realize I had been seeking. I had to completely let go of the fact that she was no longer ours. But it was the happiest of days as I got to see her in the family God had planned for her. Once again I am reminded that His plans are so much better than mine.
These past few months I have shared with you what makes an Unstoppable Mom. I have shared moms who inspire me and my tips for making it through this crazy holiday season. And as I look back over the year I would love to say that, for me, being an unstoppable mom was not letting the “system” get me down. I would love to say that even though it was hard and exhausting and emotionally draining we are still taking sweet babies into our home.
But I think what I learned last year is that realizing something isn’t right for your family doesn’t make you a failure. It is actually part of what makes you unstoppable. We were living life with zero margin. Our marriage was taxed. Our family was strained. My health began to suffer as I struggled with depression and anxiety. Friendships suffered. We simply needed time to heal on every front. And for us, healing meant no more foster care.
I finally I feel like I am ready to serve again. Not as a foster mom, but in ways that allow me to use my gits in ways that fit our family. Sometimes you have to say no to really really good things because in the long run it just isn’t healthy. I will never ever regret the season we were foster parents or the time we had with our sweet baby. She changed us in the best possible way. And maybe some day we will be able to foster again. But realizing that for now, we just can’t do it? To me, that makes me an unstoppable mom to my three kids and my husband, who are the most important people in my world.
I’ve shared ways that I try to stay an Unstoppable Mom. I would love it if you would take advantage of two ways to share yours:
- Join me Thursday, December 4 at 1 pm EST over on Twitter where we’ll be tweeting all things #UnstoppableMoms. Check out the invite for more details. There will be lots of great prizes, five $50 gift cards just in time for Christmas!!
- Then, don’t forget to post your tips and tricks to the Motrin Facebook page under each week’s Kelly Ripa question video. Remember, for every post, Children’s Motrin will donate $1 to Safe Kids Worldwide, a global nonprofit that provides moms with the tips they need to help keep their children safe. Moms could even win weekly giveaways of $100 gift cards just for posting.
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