It Has Come To This…

pregnantsnore The inevitable has happened. We have fought it for a long time, believing we were a stronger couple than this, believing that together we could get through anything, but we have had to admit to each other that it is just better this way. There is sadness of course, but also a tiny bit of relief knowing that it is necessary and hopefully one day we can find our way back to the way it was.That’s right, the hubby has officially moved to the guestroom.

Wait, it isn’t what you think. Our marriage is fine. Really good in fact. But apparently one of us has developed a night time habit that just isn’t conducive to sleeping. Apparently my snoring has gotten worse. It has been bad since about midway through the pregnancy, but it has gotten really, really bad. So bad, that I occasionally wake myself up. Between that and the monster body pillow I currently use, the poor hubby is getting no sleep. And now he has a man cold so he needs sleep to get better.

I could tell he felt really, really bad when he suggested it, but what do I care? Seriously, I am way too large for snuggling and we still hang out right up until we go to sleep so really very little has changed. And most importantly, he still gets up with the kids which is the most important part of the sleeping arrangement.

It makes me giggle a little because when we were first married we had a double bed. We house sat for some friends who had a king and I remember us having a discussion about how sad a king bed was because you were so far away from each other and cuddling was so hard. We swore we would never ever get one and would spoon ourselves to sleep every night of our marriage. Then we upgraded to a queen only because someone gave us one. Now we have a king and apparently even it isn’t big enough for us.

Still you can’t beat two people getting a full night sleep no matter how they get it. Especially since we only have a month or two left of uninterrupted sleep. Maybe Lucy and Ricky were on to something.


  1. note to self. never pick jill for a roomie at blogging conferences!

    love your honesty AND your humor! baby will be here soon and EVERYTHING will change :)
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  2. Jill….loved this post!

    Too Funny! I can still crack up laughing thinking of Jenny trying to wake you at BlogHer and get you to roll over. LOL!!!

    I will say this, I LOVE it when my husband gets up in the early morning to head to work and I can roll to the middle and stretch out in my bed!

    And, I am not pregnant or snoring! :)

  3. lol… I started reading this and seriously thought you were announcing some huge marital tragedy! so happy to hear that it’s just pregnant snoring! :)

    I snore like a truck (so I’m told) when I’m pregnant. I also emit heat like a furnace. We have a double bed. Enough said – poor hubby. :)
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  4. I keep telling you that you are living my life!!

  5. Scared me there for a minute! ;-)
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  6. ohamanda says:

    LOL. My husband and I had the exact same conversation! I LOVE my king bed and can’t imagine being preggo in anything smaller! And a KING bed all to yourself? Well, I think it’s a gift from your hubby! ;)
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  7. we’ll see how long this lasts. i suspect after 6 (7? 8?) years of sleeping in the same bed, one of you will get lonely and sneak back in for the spoon :)
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  8. You are too cute! The one benefit of having a King size bed…is when I was big and preggo both times..there was room for me, my many pillows, my big belly, and my husband!!

  9. We slept apart for a good part of my pregnancy. We were actually in a double bed at that point, and yes, I did snore. A lot. :) I hope you and the hubby can sleep together again soon.

    Hm. That sounds weird, doesn’t it?
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  10. Jill W says:

    Hi Jillie~
    Had me really scared for a few minutes!!! But Mike & I can relate! I have been sleeping on the couch for a year now (Mike’s the snorer). At least Ryan gets a bed! Take Care! XO Jill

  11. Isn’t it funny how much you can learn from experience? 2nd pregnancy – we did the same thing around week 30 or so. Knew our clock was ticking on getting sleep! It was a temporary solution and I’m so glad we did it. Good luck with your remaining weeks of pregnancy!

  12. Personally I think there is nothing wrong with him sleeping in the guest room1 we have two bedrooms and I will admit that either I or my husband move to sleep in there regularly for whatever reason..one of us is sick, one of us is snoring…one of us came home late and doesn’t want to wake the other? Sleep is really important in my book..lol…so whatever it takes! Hopefully he gets better!
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  13. We said THE SAME THING about king beds when we first got married. And now? Whenever we stay someplace with one our eyes glaze over because we know we’re going to get a fabulous night’s sleep.

    Tee hee!

    Hope the snoring gets better once you have the baby! Zzzzzz.
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  14. We started out with a double bed and upgraded to the Queen and wondered how we ever slept in the double. No room for a KING.
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  15. Seriously – pregnancy is SO much fun, isn’t it? Very funny stuff! I slept in the recliner through half of my last pregnancy – if I could sleep at all…
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  16. we are a king sized bed couple and we’ll never be able to go back to anything smaller!

  17. too funny! Mark sleeps in the guest room when he’s on night shift, it’s just so much easier that way. I have no guilt about it, for the record. :)
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  18. We also said the same thing about a King bed! The first thing we are doing when our house is finished?? Buying a kind bed! ;)
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  19. My husband is often insomniac. We’ve gone whole year before with him sleeping in a different room. ESp when the babies were small and not sleeping through the night. It’s hard enough for him to fall asleep the first time let alone after being wakened by short people.

  20. HA! Been there. Done that. I felt so bad when my husband left to go to the guest room for the last half of my pregnancy. Luckily, everything went right back to normal after the baby was born. Pregnancy does strange things to our bodies – even our noses!!
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  21. Sturgmom says:

    There is a King of Queens episode where Doug and Carrie have separate beds in a hotel room and they enjoy it so much that they slowly start doing everything separately. It’s pretty funny!

    I spent many pregnant nights on the couch b/c it was the only place where I was comfy. Not much difference, huh? Enjoy your sleep! Hope your hubby gets over his man cold soon!

  22. Oh no! My husband has a C-PAP machine, and its horrible… I know how you guys feel.
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  23. Didn’t anyone else see the “man cold” video? Priceless!!! My hubby has one too, although he’s almost over it. He’s been sleeping in the guest room so he doesn’t wake me with his coughing. Last night he was finally able to sleep with me. :)
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  24. Miranda @ Keeper of the Cheerios says:

    LOL My husband used to HATE sleeping with me when I was pregnant. Between my huge stomach and my numerous HUGE pillows my husband literally had like 12″ of bed. Looking back I should have been more understanding and just told him to go sleep on the couch but he never asked and I never told. Sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do. You guys are smart to get your sleep in now :)

  25. First, it’s been a while since I’ve stopped by. Just had to after reading your comment over at Boo’s.


    And by the way, I’ve been on the “OH MY GOSH IS DIVORCE JUSTIFIED BECAUSE OF YOUR HUSBAND SNORING” side of this story.

    I’ll tell you that after many nights of moving to the couch, earlier in our marriage–throwing stuff at the closed bedroom door that did absolutely NO good–I now sleep with earplugs, and eyemask and BENADRYL every. SINGLE. NIGHT!

    BUT, he did have his tonsils and adnoids removed three years ago so MUCH BETTER>

    And I’m sure it will get better for you and hubby, too, after the baby.

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  26. Here’s to sleep!

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