In My Skin


In about a month I will turn 37. I had to do the math in my head before I typed it because apparently when you get my age you lose track of how old you are unless it is a big one.

I have never been one to freak out about my age. Turning 30 didn’t phase me in the least. I have no fear about 40 nearing (mainly because 40 is the new 30). I haven’t paid much attention to a birthday since I turned 21.

I came into my own in my 30s. I am confident as a mom, confident as a wife, confident in my self. Do I still question my parenting decisions? Well if you read my blog you know I do. But I don’t dwell on it like I used to. It doesn’t paralyze me.

I am fine with the fact that I am not a crafty mom. Cause I can play a mean air guitar in our family band. I am not the mom who serves her kids warm cookies when they come home from school. But I do rock at hiding kale in their smoothies without them noticing. And I’m not the cool mom who lets her kids stay up late watching whatever they want on TV. But I hope I’m the mom who will listen when my kids need to talk.

In a week I will celebrate 11 years of marriage. We are in our groove there too. Marriage takes work, for sure. But we have learned that staying on top of our marriage, checking in with each other frequently, and making sure we stay connected in the craziness of kids, work and our schedule is the key. I am comfortable in my role as Ryan’s wife and thankfully have a husband who lets me know I am appreciated.

When I look in the mirror I am getting better at making peace with what stares back at me. This belly birthed three of the most gorgeous babies on the planet. These wrinkles around my eyes are from a life spent smiling. And the gray hairs. Well screw the gray hairs, that is what a good stylist is for.

So as I stare down 40 which is just around the corner I say bring it on. I wouldn’t go back for anything. And anyway, I make “old” look good. (I hear humility comes in your 40s……..)


  1. Hahahaha! This post I love.

    “I make old look good!” Followed with “I hear humility comes in your 40’s” made me laugh right out loud.

    You need to talk to Sue about this. ;) I am seriously taking notes.

    We ALL need stylist!

    And thankfully you are still younger than my husband so I can continue to keep teasing him that he is OLD (however, when I reach his age, I never will be old. He will ALWAYS be older than me…and you). Thank you for that gift of teasing him. :)
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  2. I turned 30 at the end of March. And I did have a mini meltdown – mostly because I was all worried about what I should have done by 30 – like, you know, solve world hunger and find a cure for cancer – as I’d planned when I was younger {and clearly less wise}. But when the big 3-0 came I realized that I was doing exactly what God had/has for me and that’s so much better than anything I could come up with on my own. So I’m looking forward to the next 10 years – though I’m setting my sights much lower on what I want to accomplish – like keeping my house clean for a whole week instead of thinking I can cure cancer. ;D

  3. get ready for your 40’s! it’s the best decade EVAH! xoxo
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  4. No ma’am. Humility completely disappears in your 40s. Have you looked at my blog lately? I’m 44 and I am a total smokin’ babe. Hottest I’ve ever been! And you? Holy cow lady, when you’re 44 you’re going to have to carry a fire extinguisher at all times because you’re gonna set things ablaze when you walk by.

    Love, love, love.

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    • You seriously are a smoking babe. And also I don’t believe for a second you are 44. Also I think one thing that helps you feel beautiful in your 40s is being with a good man who makes you feel confident and beautiful wrinkles, rolls and all. Wouldn’t you agree?

      • Ye … uh … wait… what wrinkles and rolls?

        I suppose it doesn’t hurt but in all honesty and seriousness, I have more confidence within myself. His opinion is very important, but in THIS decade, my opinion about myself seems to matter more than anyone else’s. Which is a deep, deep blessing of growing older.
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  5. Love this! I needed to hear it. But I hope when I’m 40 my eyebrows will not naturally grow down in my eyeLID…then I’d just be the perfect woman….
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  6. Jessica says:

    How I wish I had your confidence. I turn 30 in August and it is making me antsy. I always planned on being a stay at home mom and never really considered a career. I have taken a few college classes and got a paralegal degree but I have always had a love for nursing. It was a distant dream in the back of my mind. But now with my youngest starting school and all the extra time I will have (lol)…I have decided to go back to school full time. And that scares the _ _ _ _ out of me. I fear being the oldest one in class. I fear that I have been out of school for far too long. I fear that I have waited too long. Most of my friends have fully established careers when they are 30 and here I am barely starting school!! BTW school starts 4 days before my 30th birthday!!! I have never been one to shy away from a challenge, so I say BRING IT ON!!! But, that doesn’t make me any less scared!

    • I have a friend who had a very successful business career and when she was in her early 40s realized she wanted to be a nurse. So she went back to school. I think that is pretty awesome. There is always time to change our mind about what we want to be “when we grow up”. My only problem is that I want to be a “real housewife of Grand Rapids” when I grow up ;)

  7. Glad to know I’m not the only one that forgets how old they are :).
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  8. I, too, forget my age. It all starts to blur together, doesn’t it? Love your confidence and wise perspective!
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