A Leap of Faith

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A while back I wrote a very vague post about change coming in 2012. So vague in fact it actually caused one of my dear friends who had disappeared off the face of the earth call me to see what on earth I was talking about. Apparently that is the only way to get her to call me is bizarre vagueness. So there will be much more of that in 2012 as well.

Anyway back to the change. To tell you about the change coming in 2012, I have to take you back to 2001. It was the year I got married and the first time Ryan and I first discussed adoption. I don’t know why we started talking about it exactly. But I remember that we both were enthusiastic about the fact that one day we would adopt. And a little seed was planted.

Obviously as the years went on, we began to have our own kids. But every few years we would discuss it again and see if it was the right fit for our family. I would, from time to time, poke around on various websites, ask friends who had adopted and look into agencies. But it never seemed to be the right time.

Last year we began to begin the paperwork for foreign adoption. But the whole time we were doing it, nothing about it felt right. Finally one day we admitted to each other this just didn’t seem like what we were supposed to be doing. So we stopped. And started down a different path.

This past weekend we just completed our 6th training session to become foster parents. It is probably the scariest thing I have ever done. And although I wrestle with the fear, I also know in my heart that it is what we are supposed to be doing. But I’ve been afraid to “say it out loud” on the blog because that makes it all too real.

Life is so very good. Life is so very comfortable. Life is so very safe. Life is INCREDIBLY blessed. And out of that blessing we hope to bless some children for whom life is anything but good, comfortable or safe. To take some liberties with a quote from one of my favorite books, it isn’t safe, but it is good. To be continued….


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  1. Oh, this is wonderful news. What a blessing you will be! Can’t wait to hear more.

  2. It will no doubt change your life but you are an amazing woman, and family, for taking on this new role. We will be praying for you, of course!
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  3. i really admire you! What a gift you can give a little one…a loving, Godly family! (Oh, and p.s….I LOOOOVE my Honda CRV!)
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  4. Jill, I think this is extraordinary and so very brave and generous. You and Ryan are going to be amazing foster parents.
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  5. I have always said that fostering definitely takes a very special family … and your family is that indeed! Excited for ALL of you – your family & the children that God’s chosen for your home!

  6. That’s awesome!
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  7. Eeeeeek! So excited and will so be keeping your family in prayer. :)
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  8. We’re proud of you, Jill! You can DO it.
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  9. So excited for your family and the lives you’re going to touch & bless…just by being you!!! You will be in my prayers during this journey!!
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  10. Christine @ idreamofclean.net says:

    I can’t wait to see this story unfold. That is going to be one lucky kid to be included in a family like yours!
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  11. My husband and I had a conversation about this over dinner a few weeks ago. It’s on the back burner for us as he has reservations about it due to his line of work.

    Kudos to you! You have so much love to give a child that finds themselves in the foster care system.
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  12. Ahhhh, Narnia! And I can only imagine how good and yet hard this will be. Blessings to you!
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  13. That’s so awesome! My co-worker fosters and is on her 3rd placement. It’s been a rough start but for what God calls you to do, He has equipped you.
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  14. Awesome awesome awesome. We’ve been talking about adopting or fostering for a long time but so far my husband isn’t quite ready yet. He says he wants to wait till our kids are a bit older but I think that’s just an excuse. Praying for you guys!
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    • My hubby is definitely a little further behind on the path than I have been. But he is catching up :) It has taken a lot of prayer. I will pray for you guys too.

  15. So incredibly excited as you embark on this life-changing journey! I’m certain that God will give the strength, patience, wisdom, and courage as you seek Him all the more!
    Love you, Friend!
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  16. Amazing, Jill!! Good for you!

  17. Amazing news – congratulations! Big love to you!
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  18. Phoebe Boersma says:

    As one who currently has 4 foster brothers (all teenagers who speak 3 different languages and are from 3 different continents!), I can tell you it’s a wild ride and very rewarding! God is good!

  19. Congrats to you all!! How wonderfully wonderful!! :)
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  20. u will never regret it…

  21. First time visitor to your blog (saw your post in a tweet from Mary Carver). Congrats on your plans to be foster parents! I have been a licensed foster parent for two years this month (after over a year and a half of my paperwork getting “stuck” in the system!). My first placement was sisters who were 15 and 2 1/2. They lived with me for 16 months before going home four months ago today. I am preparing my home and my heart to accept calls for my next placement. It is challenging and rewarding and I wish you the best of luck in your preparation. I’m by no means an “expert”, but I definitely learned a lot during the past two years!
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  22. Hi Jill … just something to think about: be careful about using the term “our own children” … adopted AND biological children are our OWN children. There are of course differences in their birth stories but not in the way we raise them or love them. Fostering is definitely a leap of faith. My parents were foster parents for the majority of my childhood and I remember thinking every time I came home from school and there was a new child in our family, “oh, another brother or sister” and that was that. My parents treated those children as they treated us and now that I am a parent I realize what a gift they had in being able to do this. I pray that you will have the strength and determination it takes to be a foster parent and that God will give you the ability to unconditionally love each child that passes through your home. I can’t wait to read about your adventures :)

    • I TOTALLY agree when it comes to adopted children. But these foster children really aren’t ours. They are ours to love for a time, but the goal is to co-parent so they can go back home. If we are blessed enough to be able to adopt a child that is in our care, then most definitely they will be completely and totally ours!!!

  23. You guys will be great. Our agency is lucky to have you. Scary yes. But well worth it

  24. Jill, this is so exciting! Praying for you guys as you embark on this journey…look forward to hearing more about it. :)
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  25. Exciting and scary at the same time huh? :-) I know – my parents did foster care so growing up, much of my middle school years we had foster children. Such a thankless job and so many things to think about all at once.
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  26. “Life is so very good. Life is so very comfortable. Life is so very safe. Life is INCREDIBLY blessed. And out of that blessing we hope to bless some children for whom life is anything but good, comfortable or safe.”

    Is it appropriate at all for me to say I’m proud of you? Because I am! Our society is FULL OF US. OUR comfort. OUR safe. YOU are about those who NEED. Thank you!
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  27. Congratulations! What exciting news. We’ve always considered it ourselves at some point. Our prayers are with you during this process. (Won’t Hannah be especially wonderful as a foster sister?)

  28. Tiffany says:

    Good luck, you will need it. As a current foster parent I will not tell you how great you are for doing this because you will not feel like a great person as you walk this road. It will expose every weakness that your family has and will often feel like torture for your heart. I will not tell you what a blessing your family will be to a child because to come to your family means that they have to feel the pain of being taken from all that they know. What I will tell you is THANK YOU for following what God has put on your heart. Thank you for choosing to invest in children that cannot thank you back. Thank you for putting your heart on the line as you not only help these vulnerable children but hopefully also help their struggling parents. May God be with you as you take on this adventure.

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